Friday, September 9, 2016

Don't Judge Others, Begin with Yourself



When Chaim of Zanz was a young man, he set out to change the world.  But, when he reached the age of forty, he looked around and saw that the world remained unchanged. So he said, “Perhaps I was too ambitious.  I will begin with my country.”  But at the age of fifty, his country too remained unchanged.  So he said, “I was still too ambitious.  From now on I will only try to lift up my community.”  But at sixty he saw that his community still remained the same.  So he decided to change his own family.  But when he looked around, he saw that his family had grown and moved away, and now he remained alone.  “Now I understand that I needed to begin with myself.”  So he spent the rest of his life perfecting his own soul.[i]

Chaim of Zanz was a Hasidic Master.  He wrote brilliant books on Jewish Law, commentary about the Bible, which were read by those in his day.  He began a Hasidic Dynasty, which attracted hundreds if not thousands of followers and students.  He had a deep impact on an entire generation; developing a community that grew in its commitment to Torah and caring for one another.  Chaim of Zanz could have described his impact on the world around him, the impact we have on the world around us, yet his most famous story expresses an entirely different ideal. 

After a long life, Chaim of Zanz recognized that change sometimes comes slowly.  The Rabbi encountered many hurdles as he attempted to make true transformation in his world.  Overtime, he rightly became quite discouraged that the change he hoped for, didn’t happen.  After decades of trying, he learned this lesson: he might not be able to repair his world, he might not be able to change his community, he might not be able to uplift his family, but he could transform himself.  Each of us has the ability to perfect our own soul; to begin that process of self-transformation.  The crux of his story: we can’t begin to change the world, unless we first begin to change ourselves.

A similar sentiment is found in this week’s Torah portion.  After chapter upon chapter which discusses, holiday upon holiday, our Torah portion, Shoftim, changes direction to address justice and the rule of law!  Our Torah portion begins with these words: “You shall appoint judges and officials for your tribes in all of the settlements” (Deuteronomy 16:18).  Of course our country should have judges and officials who can judge and rule with impartiality.  In order for justice to occur, we must have the rule of law. 

But, there is something unique about this first line of our Torah portion!  The rabbis notice that there is an extra word found in this sentence; the word “Lecha” meaning “for yourself”!  According to tradition, every word in the Torah is there for a reason, no word is written there by mistake or for no purpose!  However, this word, “Lecha” – meaning “for yourself” is unnecessary, it’s not needed for the sentence to make sense.  We are told that we need to appoint judges… why do we need to appoint judges “for yourself"?

The Chasidic rabbis later teach that “Lecha” – “for yourself” reminds us that we must begin with ourselves.  We judge ourselves before we judge others!  This extra word serves as exclamation point, reminding us of how easy it is to sit upon our high horse and judge others for behaviors we’d condone in ourselves!  How easy it is to be lenient with ourselves, but be harsh with others!  

The Chasidic Rabbi[ii] remind us: We must use the same yardstick to judge ourselves that we use to judge other!  Our goal is not to compare ourselves to others, but instead to assess ourselves, to understand how we measure up!

This is our season of assessment, our season of measuring ourselves.  These few weeks of Elul, are a time of preparation, a time of accounting for our mistakes.  Transformation doesn’t occur in one day, we need weeks to truly make change!  We need time for contemplation, self-assessment, and reflection, in order to make the changes in our lives that will lead to self-growth and healing.

Long ago, Chaim of Zanz taught that for true change to occur, we must first begin with ourselves!  The Torah takes this a step further, not only is change difficult, but searching inward at our very being is excruciating difficult.  It’s much easier to judge others than to judge ourselves.  It’s much easier to demand perfection of those that surround us, and give ourselves a pass.  No one ever said that Judaism was easy, during these next few weeks, we’re asked to step-up to the challenge.  To look inward, to give a true accounting of ourselves, to be brutally honest in our self-assessment because only when we are honest and forthright with ourselves, can we truly begin that path towards transformation and change! 


[i] Hasidic Tale based upon a version retold by Ellen Frankel in “The Jewish Spirit: A Celebration in Stories & Art”
[ii]Toledot Yaakov Yosef

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