Showing posts with label kindness. Show all posts
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Friday, October 11, 2019

Yom Kippur Sermon: Restoring the Gate of Compassion




Long ago,[i] in the Old City of Jerusalem, there was once a small gate that faced towards the East.  This gate was called Sha’ar HaRachamim, the Gate of Compassion, and it was the main entrance to the Holy Temple.  Many centuries ago, the Gate of Compassion was buzzing with people.  Wedding Couples and Mourners would meet there and the entire community would congregate around them, to celebrate and comfort, to provide solace and compassion.


Sha’ar HaRachamim was so important, that tradition teaches that the Messiah, the Moshiach, the bringer of Redemption, would one day enter through this gate to herald the Messianic Age – a utopia filled with justice, peace, and compassion for us all.

That thought terrified Sultan Suleiman the Magnificent.  The last thing he wanted was a Messianic entering the Old City!  And so, in the year 1541, the Ottoman Sultan filled the gate with stones, barricading the entrance. A fence was constructed, and a cemetery placed in front, preventing the Messiah from entering Jerusalem to bring about Redemption..  For hundreds of years, the Gate of Compassion has been sealed shut. 

That image resonates deeply with me.  There too many walls, fences, and even locked doors in our world today.  We need more gates, more bridges, more pathways to see and understand one another.  To bring about the Messianic Age – to build a world of love, acceptance, and peace, we must unlock the doors of suspicion, hatred, and animosity.  We must restore the Gate of Compassion.

For there is a severe lack of compassion in our world these days.  We see this problem globally, with the rise of refugees, authoritarianism, world conflicts, and of course Climate Change.  Just weeks ago, hundreds of thousands of people gathered in the streets for worldwide climate march.  It was Greta Thunberg, the 16-year old Swedish environmental activist who became a worldwide sensation when she addressed the UN Climate Action Summit in New York:[ii]   

“This is all wrong!  I shouldn’t be up here.,” she said.  “I should be back at school on the other side of the ocean.  Yet you come to us young people for hope.  How dare you!  You have stolen my dreams and my childhood with your empty words and yet I’m one of the lucky ones.  People are suffering, people are dying; entire ecosystems are collapsing.  We are at the beginning of mass extinction and all you can talk about is the money and fairy tales of eternal economic growth.  How dare you!” 

Greta vividly described the major obstacle of solving Climate Change!  As a society, we have the resources, we comprehend the problem, and we know what to do, yet nothing ever changes.  Our politicians and leaders refuse to act, focusing their efforts on economic growth, rather than making the tough choices of curbing emissions.  There is a lack of compassion by our leaders, for the biggest impact of Climate Change will be on the most vulnerable.

Most of us in this room will be fine, even if the climate continues to change dramatically.  We have the resources to rebuild our lives.  It is those who are the poorest, who are most in harm’s way.  The floods, droughts, and severe climate weirdness will affect the most defenseless, as well as animals, and biodiversity.  Our lack of action points to a lack of compassion.

Earlier this morning, we read the famous words: “I have put before you, life and death, blessing and curse – choose life – if you and your offspring would live.”  Rabbi Eliezer Davidovits asks the obvious question: “Is there really a person who would choose death?  Wouldn’t everyone prefer life to death, blessing to curse?”  

As Rabbi Josh Zweibach teaches, there are in fact two ways to “choose life.”  One approach is to focus on ourselves first, considering our needs and desires, and only afterwards the wishes of others.  But there is another way to “choose life.”  Before we act, we can think about how our behaviors will affect others as well as future generations.  A real choice is offered to us: “Will we live in a way that supports life in the broadest sense, or will we live in a way that serves only ourselves?”[iii]

Although it may mean less economic growth and giving up on certain behaviors that we cherish, I believe the choice is obvious.  We must choose compassion over self.    We must recognize that our actions affect those around the world including those who will follow in our footsteps.  We must choose life for all. 

Yet, often, it seems difficult to choose which issue to put our full energy behind.  Each day, there seems to be more and more problems in our country: from immigration to racism; LGBTQ rights to anti-Semitism; Reproductive Rights to Gun Violence prevention, and on and on and on.  There are so many challenges in the world, it seems overwhelming to even try and fix one problem.  So, what do we do?

There is no right answer.  Every single issue seems to be a moral imperative.  Yet, if we wish to restore the Gate of Compassion, we must first begin by seeing every single person in this world as a human being, as a person created B’tzelem Elohim “in the image of God.”  Compassion means seeing each other not as an It, but as a person worthy of respect and dignity.

After the constant news of the inhumane treatment of refugees at the border, three of our own members, Elisabeth Liebow, Leslie Margolis, and Joyce Moskovits, decided that they needed to do something.  With help from HIAS, they traveled down to Tijuana, to volunteer with an organization, Al Otro Lado, which assists refugees in Mexico who are seeking asylum in the United States.

Why did they drop everything to head down to the border?  As Leslie Margolis shares:

“Because sending money to immigration organizations is good but is no longer enough.  Because attending vigils and protests is good, but no longer enough.  Because what is happening at the border is eerily reminiscent of 1930s Germany, and it is imperative that we bear witness.  Because this massive overwhelming crisis feels intensely personal, and I felt compelled to do something – anything – to make whatever difference I could.”

We’re living in a time where we must do more than we’ve ever done before – because this is personal – because our ancestors navigated these troubled waters – because “Never Again!” does not mean “Never Again for just the Jews!”  it means “Never Again for us all!”

The world’s problems are so severe.  And we are limited to fix them.  We can’t all travel to the border.  We can’t take in every homeless person.  We can’t feed every hungry person.  So, what can we do? 

We marshal our resources.  We join together as a congregation to fulfill the responsibility of Tikkun Olam because we know that we can make a bigger impact when we do this work together.  We partner with organizations who are leading the charge, like: BUILD, Jews United for Justice, HIAS, Strong Schools Maryland, and so many others.  We can’t do this alone.  By ourselves, change is slow.  Together, as one community, with those across this country, we can begin to restore compassion and dignity to our world. 

For there is much work to do.  Whether it’s around the world, at our nation’s border, or here in our own city of Baltimore.  We can and must make a difference.  Each and every day, we have the ability to restore the Gate of Compassion. 

Why did our ancestors call this gate: the Gate of Compassion?[iv]  Tradition teaches that were actually two small gates, side by side.  Everyone would enter the Temple through the right gate and exit through the left.   Unless, you were a mourner, or excommunicated from the community.  These individuals would enter the opposite way, through the left gate and exit through the right. People would ask them: “Why are you entering the opposite way?”  They would reply: “I am a mourner.  I feel isolated.”  And so the community would look them in the eye and share these words of blessing: “May the One who dwells in this House comfort you.  May the One who dwells in this House open your hearts and the hearts of those close to you.”

The Gate was a meeting place to provide each other with solace and comfort, blessing and compassion.  We too regularly meet strangers and neighbors in our City, who look to us for sustained kindness and compassion.

It’s the barista at the local coffee shop.  The custodian who cleans your building.  It’s the neighbor whose name you don’t remember.  The homeless person standing on the street corner.  It’s the squeegee boy who waits for the light to turn red. 

It’s easy to ignore them.  To roll up the window.  To walk on by.  But instead of thinking: “How can I get rid of the squeegee boy?  How about moving a little more towards compassion?”  Maybe it’s providing a dollar, or at the very least, it’s treating him with a little bit more respect, dignity and humanity.

As the poet Danny Siegel teaches:
If you always assume
the man sitting next to you is the Messiah
Waiting for some simple human kindness –
You will soon come to weigh your words
And watch your hands.
And if he so chooses
Not to reveal himself
In your time –
It will not matter.[v]

For the Messiah is waiting.  Waiting for us to restore the Gate of Compassion.

Long ago,[vi] Rabbi Joshua ben Levi asked Elijah the prophet. “When will the Messiah come?”  Elijah replied: “Go and ask him yourself!  He’s sitting at the entrance of the city.”  “How will I recognize him?”  “He sits among the poor who suffer from illness and helps them tie and untie their bandages.”  Rabbi Joshua went to meet the Messiah.  “Greetings to you, my rabbi, my teacher.”  “Greetings to you, Joshua ben Levi,” came the reply.  “Oh Messiah, when will you come?  We’ve been waiting so patiently for you!”  The Messiah answered: “Today!”  “Today!”  Rabbi Joshua was overwhelmed!  Yet, just a short time later, he returned to Elijah visibly upset.  “The Messiah lied to me.  The Messiah didn’t come!  Elijah replied, “That was no lie.  The Messiah said: “I will come today, if you only hear God’s voice” (Psalm 95:7). 

The Messiah has been here all along.  The Messiah walks among us, caring for the sick, looking out for the most vulnerable, welcoming the refugee, searching for peace.  Yet, the Messiah waits.  Waiting for us to act.  Waiting for us to bring kindness and compassion into our world!

Long ago, there was a Gate of Compassion.  A meeting place where Wedding Couples and Mourners gathered.  Where the community celebrated and provided each other with solace and comfort.  Centuries ago, the Gate of Compassion was filed with stones, the entrance barricaded.  A fence constructed, and a cemetery placed in front.  The Messiah is waiting there, unable to enter, waiting for us to restore the Gate of Compassion, for the Gate of Compassion is sealed shut.

In these dark times, when more and more fences, and walls, and locked doors are being constructed, it is our responsibility, our obligation, to do the opposite: to build bridges, to create new pathways, and to restore the Gate of Compassion.  We must chip away at the animosity, the suspicion, and the hatred.  We must tear down the fence and put others wellbeing before our own.  We must create a new path forward by reaching out to allies and neighbors and working together to change our society.  We must open the gates and restore compassion and humanity to our world.

For only, when we join together and open the Gate of Compassion, can the Messiah enter and bring about that Utopia that we yearn for, a world of justice, a world of peace, and most importantly, a world of compassion.



[i] In gratitude to Rabbi Karyn Kedar for sharing the story of Sha’ar HaRachamim (Gate of Compassion) with me
[iii] Rabbi Josh Zweibach, p. 265 Mishkan HaNefesh Yom Kippur
[iv] Mishnah, Middot 2:2 and Pirke d’Rabbi Eliezer 17. 
[v] Danny Siegel “And God Braided Eve’s Hair”
[vi] Babylonian Talmud, Sanhendrin 98a


Saturday, November 3, 2018

Solidarity Shabbat: Remembering the Victims of Tree of Life Synagogue



This has been a tough week.  I’ve personally been in a cloud from the moment my Shabbat joy was shattered last Saturday.  I’ve been filled with utter sadness at the loss of precious life at the Tree of Life Synagogue.  I’ve been filled with fear.    Fear for myself.  Fear for the Jewish Community.  Fear for the future of our country.

I know that I am not alone.  The Jew’s heart is breaking.  All in our wider community are hurting.  All of us are in grief, in mourning.  That is why we are here together.

Each week, we gather to read a section of the Torah, the five books of Moses.  We began a few weeks ago with the very beginning of Genesis.  And now, we are in the midst of the story of Abraham and Sarah.  It completely confounds me that no matter what is happening in our lives, no matter what is happening in our world, the week’s Torah portion seems to fit perfectly to our communal mood and mindset.  This week is no exception.

Our Torah portion, Chayei Sarah, begins with death and mourning.  Sarah dies suddenly, and Abraham mourns the loss of his beloved wife.  The Torah teaches that Abraham grieves for Sarah in two distinct ways: he wails, and he remembers her.

We are in the midst of shiva, the seven days of initial mourning, for the eleven souls of Pittsburgh.  We’ve cried.  We’ve grieved.  We’ve wailed.  We Jews also mourn by sharing stories of the dead.  Abraham remembered Sarah by reflecting upon her very essence.  We too need to remember the dead: what they believed, what propelled them in life, and what mattered most in their world.  You may have heard their stories, but they bear repeating.

Joyce Feinberg was a research specialist at the University of Pittsburgh Learning Research and Development Center for more than 25 years.  She was an elegant and warm person who was enormously caring with a huge personality.

Richard Gottfried was a dentist who along with his wife shared a dental practice.  Richard and his wife were fixtures in the community and they volunteered together at the Catholic Charities Dental Clinic.  He was an avid runner who had recently been attending services at Tree of Life Synagogue.

Rose Mallinger was spry, vibrant, and full of life.  At 97 years old, she was the quintessential bubbe (Jewish grandmother) where family was everything.  She was mother of three, grandmother to five, great-grandmother to one.  Rose attended services every Saturday, sitting next to her sister in synagogue.  She was always quick with a friendly greeting, a hug, and a smile.

Jerry Rabinowitz was a primary care physician.  During the early days of HIV treatment when stigma was high, Jerry was known to hold patients’ hands without gloves and to embrace them.  He was known for wearing bow ties to help make people laugh.  Jerry escaped the initial assault on Saturday. and turned around and ran inside to see if anyone was hurt or needed a doctor.

Cecil and David Rosenthal – were two incredible brothers.  Cecil was a gentle giant who greeted everyone with a smile and a strong handshake.  He had a youthful exuberance and a laugh that was infectious.  He had developmental challenges and was a beloved member of the community.  David was quieter, but no less beloved.  He was a greeter, standing in front of the sanctuary handing out prayer books.  The brothers were inseparable.

Bernice and Sylvan Simon were married at the Tree of Life Congregation more than 60 years ago.  A neighbor shared that they were the sweetest people you could have imagined.  They were always giving back to people, they always stepped up, and were kind and generous. 
  
Daniel Stein was a simple man who didn’t require much.  He had a dry sense of humor and was a great guy.  He was a former president of the New Light Congregation and is remembered for his kindness.

Melvin Wax was known as Mel to everyone.  His greatest passion besides the Pittsburgh Penguins was his grandson.  Mel was generous and a sweet man who would help anyone.  At almost 88 years old, he’d always park his car a few streets away from the synagogue to leave closer spaces to those who needed them.

Irving Younger greeted each member with a big smile and a handshake.  He liked to make sure that everyone knew what page they were on in the prayer book.  He went to synagogue every day, he never missed a day.  He felt a true responsibility and a role to serve the community.

These eleven precious souls are us.  They are young and old.  They are singles, couples, siblings, and friends.  They are Jews, interfaith couples, Jews-by-choice, those with disabilities; the rainbow of our Jewish community.  They are the greeters, the Torah readers, the prayer leaders, and the board members.  They are the regulars and those who come every once and a while. They are us.

As I read their stories this past Monday, I began to cry.  I know the Rose Mallingers, the Jerry Rabinowitz’s, the Cecil and David Rosenthal’s.  I know the Bernice and Sylvan Simon’s and the Joyce Feinberg’s.  Pittsburgh is us.  Squirrel Hill is us.  We are Squirrel Hill.  I cried because we are one big family.  We lost precious lives.  We are all in this together.

As we mourn, I’m cognizant that our shiva, our initial seven days of mourning, is almost complete.  As one rabbinic colleague shared: “Today we mourn, tomorrow we act.”  What happens tomorrow?  Where do we go from here?

I find my answer by going back to the Torah.  Halfway through our portion, we meet Rebecca, the matriarch, for the first time.  Rebecca sits by her town’s well.  When Eliezer, servant of Abraham, appears, she welcomes him with open arms.  She provides him with water and also draws water for Eliezer’s many camels.

Rebecca’s quintessential feature is kindness.  She welcomes Eliezer, a stranger, into her home.  She goes out of her way to help him through his troubles.  It might seem like a small thing to provide someone with a glass of water but remember she didn’t have a tap or a sink!  The well was far away.  And camels after a long hot journey drink much water.  This was a big moment and a lot of hard work.  Rebecca lives her every moment with kindness and with a welcoming personality.

There is real fear in our community.  There is so much hatred and anger in the world.  We wish to guard ourselves by building a fortress around our community.  There is an urgency to protect ourselves with ever greater walls, doors, guards, and guns.  After this attack, the trauma, pushes us to look inward, to circle the wagons, to protect our own.

Now, don’t get me wrong.  We must keep our community safe.  With our President, Melissa Zieve’s leadership, we have already begun conversations about security and safety.  New protocols and new procedures have been implemented and will be implemented to make our community secure in the days ahead.

Yet, it’s not just safety procedures, it’s also outlook and prospective.  Do we look inward?  Do we close the door?  Or do we look outside our walls?  As a community, Bolton Street Synagogue has always stood for warmth, welcoming, and community.  Our new tagline is: “Doors Wide Open.”  Our identity is about opening ourselves up to the broader Jewish and non-Jewish community.

It’s more than us, it’s also the lives who were lost in Pittsburgh.  I shared their stories because each person whose life was lost, lived his or her days with kindness and compassion.  They focused their days living life with: generosity, kindness, caring, giving, warmth, laughter, smiles, and love.  As Rebecca’s essence was kindness and a welcoming personality, so too did the eleven who died at Tree of Life Synagogue.  We can’t put up barriers.  We can’t turn in the wagons.  We Jews need to live our lives with kindness in our hearts and with our doors open to the world.

Our Torah portion begins with mourning.  Abraham grieves with wailing and remembrance for his beloved wife Sarah.  But, our Torah portion ends in an entirely different light.  It ends with comfort.  Isaac, the son of Sarah, also grieves.  He finds comfort in his new wife Rebecca.  We learn in the Torah that: “Isaac loved Rebecca and finds comfort after his mother’s death.”

Isaac finds comfort not through vengeance and anger, not through rage and resentment, but through kindness, love, and togetherness.  It’s through relationship and friendship, that Isaac finds peace.

Even more powerfully, our Torah portion ends with the burial of Abraham.  We learn that Isaac and Ishmael, Abraham’s two sons, come together to bury their father.  Jewish tradition teaches that Ishmael is the patriarch of the Arabs and Islam.  How powerful that two brothers, of two different religious traditions, come together, to bury their father.  To comfort each other.  To support each other.

Tonight, I’m overwhelmed at the number of non-Jewish friends, family members, and allies who are here to support us.  In addition, we have a dozen members of the clergy: pastors, reverends, priests, and ministers, who are here with us in solidarity.  We know that we as a Jewish community are not here alone.  There are so many of you, who have our back.  You are here to comfort us, support us, and be our friend.  There is fear for the future, but there is also great optimism that together we can make a difference.  Together we can help change this world for the better. 

I firmly believe we do that by getting to know each other better, by building deeper relationships across religion, ethnicity, race, and community.  That’s why we invited you to be here with us tonight.  Don’t just leave after the service and never see us again.  Let this be the moment to renew our relationship with each other.  As Rebecca opened her home to Eliezer, we too open our home to you.  After the service, lets join together to talk, to get to know each other, and to break bread together.  Let this moment of sadness and grieving, lead us to comfort, to friendship, and to peace.