Wednesday, September 30, 2015

Our Power to Break the Bonds of Racial Injustice - Kol Nidre Sermon


Many years ago, a young Jewish man from Boston traveled down to Florida for his honeymoon.  He and his wife were picked up at the airport by an African-American cab driver.  As they drove through wealthy neighborhoods, they passed by a Country Club, with a large sign out front, with the words, “No Jews, No Dogs.”  The man was shocked.  He turned towards the cab driver and asked if that was common practice down there.  The driver answered: “At least you made the sign.  They don’t even mention us.’”  That young man, Kivie Kaplan, became an activist and a philanthropist.  He marched with Dr. King in Selma, travelled to Mississippi for Freedom Summer, and served as a president of the NAACP. 


Late in life, Kivie helped found the Religious Action Center of Reform Judaism.  The RAC has a long history of advocacy and fighting for justice.  A few years after the RAC’s founding, the very words of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 and the Voting Rights Act of 1965 were penned on its conference room table.

Kivie Kaplan was one giant among a generation of Jewish leaders who stood against racial injustice.  Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel and Rabbi Joachim Prinz and scores of other Jewish men, women, and college students risked their lives for the rights of others.  They helped make our world a more just, a more tolerant, a more equitable place for all.

That is why I am saddened by the recent news of racial injustice.  There are still too many who face prejudice solely because of the color of their skin.  We’ve seen parts of the Voting Rights Act struck down, and now, new, onerous laws make it challenging for many to vote.  On Rosh Hashanah, Rabbi White reminded us of the power that words hold, such as Eric Garner’s “I can’t breathe!”  There are too many stories of black men who were stopped by the police and failed to make it home.

In light of these recent events: of the shootings and the demonstrations, of the rulings and legislation: Cornell Brooks, President and CEO of the NAACP, called for a march, “America’s Journey for Justice.”  This was not any march; it was a 40 day, 1,000 mile journey that began in Selma, Alabama and ended in Washington, DC.  Why march?  Because “our lives, our votes, our jobs, and our schools matter.”  Why march? Because “Black Lives Matter.”

Fifty years ago, hundreds marched with Dr. King from Selma to Montgomery, to address the injustice around voting rights.  On your seats is a picture taken from that march.  Standing next to Dr. King, is Rabbi Maurice Eisendrath, then president of our Reform Movement, marching and carrying a beloved Torah scroll.

When our Reform Movement heard about “America’s Journey for Justice,” they pledged that at least one rabbi each day, alongside a Torah, would march the entire 1,000 miles of the journey.  I knew that I must follow in Rabbi Eisendrath’s footsteps.  That’s how, I found myself, in the middle of August, on a desolate road in rural Georgia.  Alongside me were dozens of other marchers of all races and religions.  In the heat and the humidity, with sweat pouring down my face, I marched, carrying the Torah.  I learned so much just by walking, talking, and journeying alongside my fellow marchers.  I’d like to share some of the stories I heard and I hope, that together, we can work to bring justice and compassion to our world.

That morning, I sat down for breakfast with Royal, who lives in Ohio, just a few hours from where I grew up.  Royal shared how terrified he is when his teenage son gets into the car and drives away.  I thought about all of the parents who worry when their kids get behind the wheel for the first time.  Royal worries about this too, but it’s not his only concern.  Royal fears that his son could get pulled over for the crime of “driving while black.”  Could his son be dragged from the car, arrested, or even worse, never make it home?

Carrying a 20 pound Torah in the 100 degree heat isn’t easy and as I marched next to Royal, the Torah truly became a burden.  But, it wasn’t the Torah’s weight that bothered me; it was its values of justice and righteousness that truly bore down upon my soul.  I couldn’t help but think about the prophet Isaiah, whose words we will read tomorrow morning:       

Cry from the depths, says God – do not hold back, lift up your voice like the shofar…[i]

Royal’s cry and the cries of millions of parents like him, sound like a shofar, awakening me from my complacency, my comfort.    I thought about all of the times I wanted to lock the doors of my car or hold tight to my phone.  I reflected upon my own prejudice and my own discomfort around race.  This Yom Kippur, I focus my Cheshbon HaNefesh – the accounting of my own soul – on racial injustice.  I challenge myself to look at the fears that plague my soul and the internal racism that goads me.  I challenge myself to understand the benefits of being white and finding ways to create equality and fairness for all.

Later that day, I marched alongside Sheila who is concerned about the next generation.  In her hometown of Detroit, Sheila told me that those without an education often only find work as a restaurant server – making the minimum wage – barely enough to make a life.  Sheila described the pain she feels for those stuck in the cycle of poverty, whose schools fail them, and whose job prospects are dim.  Sheila inspires me.  She just started a new job tutoring high school seniors, providing them with the skills they need to move forward with their education and their dreams.        

As I marched alongside Sheila, Torah in my arms, I once again thought back to Isaiah who reminds us that to change our world, we must act:

Is not this the fast I desire – to break the bonds of injustice and remove the heavy yoke; to let the oppressed go free and release all those enslaved?  Is it not to share your bread with the hungry and to take the homeless poor into your home, and never to neglect your own flesh and blood?[ii]

Without a doubt, our schools are failing many who live in low income areas.  This disproportionately affects students who are black because our schools are more segregated now than they were forty years ago.[iii]  There are so many barriers preventing us from fixing our schools, yet Sheila did not throw up her hands and walk away; she acted!  She is doing her part to better our world.

There are already so many in our community, from the grassroots to government, from philanthropy to hands-on work, whose acts make a huge difference in Long Island and around the world.  But, we know there is so much more we can do both individually and as a community to tackle racial injustice.  Here are just four things, some easier than others, which I hope will push us to do even more:

First, you can do something as easy as filling out a postcard!  In 2013, the Supreme Court struck down certain sections of the Voting Rights Acts.  Since then many states, most famously North Carolina, passed laws making it difficult for thousands of citizens, often people of color, the poor, or the elderly from accessing the ballot box.  There is nothing more unjust than preventing citizens the right to vote.  On your seat is a postcard.  Take a moment to fill it out and drop it in the baskets on your way out of services. 

This October, learn and study and open your minds!  The Temple Sinai Book Club will be reading Ta-Nehisi Coates, “Between the World and Me.”  Written as a letter to his fifteen year old African-American son, it powerfully describes race in America today.  I hope you will read the book and join us for the discussion.

This winter, help build a better community.  We already have a close relationship with Pastor Victor Lewis and the Friendship Baptist Church.  We will come together to have a discussion about race and religion.  This will not be an easy conversation, but by truly listening to each other, we can uncover new truths, deepen our relationship, and work together to heal our world.

This year, become an activist!  Temple Sinai is a partner of LICAN, a Long Island Community Organizing Initiative.  We advocate for social change as part of Reform Jewish Voice of New York and the Religious Action Center.  Whether it is a local issue or a national law, our congregation needs leaders who will help us advocate for justice and equality for all.  Please volunteer and join us! 

I know these might seem to be small things, but this is just the beginning.  Don’t let it stop here.  May our study and our building of relationship, encourage us to help all who are in need and discover new ways to give back to our community. 

As the day grew hotter, I marched alongside Keisha and learned her story.  In 1996, the Ku Klux Klan chose Ann Arbor, Michigan, her hometown, as the location for its next rally.  A small group of Klansman showed up wearing their white robes and conical hoods, while across the way, hundreds of others stood together in a counter-rally.  All was peaceful until a woman with a megaphone yelled out: “There’s a Klansman in the crowd!”  A white, middle aged man, wearing a confederate flag t-shirt with an SS tattoo on his arm, stood in the middle of the counter-demonstration.  Shouts of “Kill the Nazi” were hurled at him.  As he was knocked to the ground, the protesters began kicking him and hitting him with sticks.

Suddenly, Keshia, then only 18 years old, a High School senior, threw herself upon the man, protecting him from the blows.  Asked why she did this, she shared: “I knew what it was like to be hurt.  The many times that happened, I wish someone would have stood up for me.”[iv]

I asked Keisha if she ever spoke with the man whose life she saved.  She never did.  But one day, when she was at a local coffee shop, a young man stopped and thanked her.  “What for?” she asked.  “That was my dad” he answered. 

Keisha’s act not only changed one son’s heart, it transformed the trajectory of her life as well.  Like Kivie Kaplan, experiencing hatred and hostility, pushed Keisha to become an activist.  Twenty years later, she continues to fight for justice and equality.  We all can’t be Keshia, but we can possess her willingness to see each other not by the color of our skin, but as other human beings. 

This evening, on Kol Nidre, as I begin my fast, Isaiah’s cry summons me: Is not this the fast I desire – to break the bonds of injustice and remove the heavy yoke; to let the oppressed go free and release all those enslaved?[v]  Isaiah calls me to recognize my prejudice and my fears.  Isaiah calls me to act, to do my part, to not remain silent.  But, it is not only Isaiah who calls me: Royal, Sheila, Keisha and millions upon millions of others cry out, their cry like a shofar, for justice and equality.  They remind me that I have the power to heal our world so that on one feels injustice or hatred or discrimination for who they are.  I hear their call.  Hineni, Here I am, I am ready.




[i] Isaiah 58:1 (Verses from the Yom Kippur Morning Haftarah Reading)
[ii] Isaiah 58:6-7 (Verses from the Yom Kippur Morning Haftarah Reading)
[iii] http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/answer-sheet/wp/2013/08/29/report-public-schools-more-segregated-now-than-40-years-ago/
[iv] http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-24653643
[v] Isaiah 58:1, 6 (Verses from the Yom Kippur Morning Haftarah Reading)

Moving Past Perfection - Erev Rosh Hashanah Sermon




Long ago,[i] there was a great king.  This king possessed the most beautiful diamond.  It was perfect in every way.  The diamond brought the king great joy and he spent hours gazing at its beauty.  One day, tragedy occurred.  The diamond fell from the king’s grasp, smashing upon the marble floor.  A deep, long scratch, now marred its exquisite perfection. 


The king was distraught.  He sent for his best artisans pleading with them to fix the diamond.  Each diamond-cutter looked closely at the gem and shook his head sadly.  The scratch was too deep to be repaired. 

Finally, one last diamond carver arrived and gazed at the gem from every direction.  He told the king that he could create something beautiful out of its flaws.

Within the week, the diamond cutter had returned.  The king lifted the gem towards the light and saw that the long scratch still remained.  He became furious.  “Why do you mock me?” he yelled!  “Look closer” said the artisan. Instead of seeing the scratch as a flaw, the artisan saw it as the stem of a rose.  Patiently, he carved flowers, roots, and leaves: transforming an ugly imperfection into something unique and truly remarkable. 

At the start of these High Holy Days, we too focus on our imperfections.  We recognize that we made mistakes; we committed wrongs; we missed the mark.  We will spend the next ten days, searching, uncovering, and repairing the regrets that litter our lives.  The question is: how will we grapple with our imperfections?  The diamond carver recognized that our limitations can’t easily be erased or polished away; imperfections don’t just disappear, they must be transformed into something of lasting value. 

Our society more than ever believes in perfection.  A politician misspeaks; an athlete takes the wrong shot; a teen idol fails to live up to her image; and we gladly lambast them publicly.  Social media, tv advertisements, peer pressure, push us towards the elusive goal of perfection.  We want the killer body, the Ivy League education, the high flying job, the gorgeous home, and the perfectly behaved kids.  I believe our striving towards perfection is not only unhealthy, but inherently un-Jewish.  The Talmud teaches that: “The Torah was not given to the angels.”[ii]  God gave the ultimate gift, the treasure of Torah, not to those perfectly behaved Angelic Beings, but to us, human beings, even with all of our frailties and all of our many faults.  Judaism does not expect or even ask that we be perfect.  Our tradition teaches the reverse: be true to who you are and work to better your life and the lives of those who surround you.

Nothing better illustrates this point, than our understanding of God.  When Moses and God meet for the first time, God shares God’s name: “I will be, what I will be.” – The imperfect tense.[iii]  Through our personal experience and the stories shared throughout our tradition, we recognize that God is an imperfect being.  God is continually changing and adapting, never reaching a state of perfection.  We sometimes are challenged or even angered at God’s limitations, but are reminded that God makes mistakes, just like the rest of us.  If God is not perfect and the Torah was given even with all of our limitations, why must we continually strive for perfection?  Why must we push our children to achieve unreasonable expectations?

Many of you might not know this… but I guess there is no better time than this, to come out of the closet, and admit that… “I am… a perfectionist.”  Yes, I always make sure that everything is done “the right way, at the right time.”  Being a perfectionist served me well as a teenager, throughout grad school, and especially as a rabbi, but something changed since the birth of my son.  I’ve come to learn some incredibly important lessons.  As a parent, there is no such thing as perfection. Caleb is smack dab in the middle of the terrible twos with potty training to boot.  I’ve come to the hard realization that I’m not a perfect parent.  Like many others in this room: “I’ve lost my cool, said things I shouldn’t have, acted rashly, and didn’t do my best.” 

I’ve also come to the realization that although Caleb is incredible in every way and I kvell with joy when I speak about him, I don’t want him to be perfect either.  He will make mistakes; will do things his way, at his time; and will have his own limitations.  This year, as we will reflect upon teshuvah – working to better our own lives – I personally am wrestling with perfection.  It’s difficult to step back and affirm our flaws.  It’s challenging to accept the imperfections of loved ones.  But, it’s these imperfections that can transform our lives into something of lasting value.

Don’t get me wrong: I firmly believe that doing our best and working hard are truly admirable traits.  My concern is when our end goal is always perfection.  There is a danger when we expect perfection for ourselves and our loved ones.  Sometimes, we will use any means to get there: harming our bodies; working far too hard; cheating; finding the easy answer that might not be the “right” answer.  Striving for perfection can be a sign of low self-esteem or of an inability to believe in ourselves.  We lose our identity: that understanding of who we are and what we believe when we travel down the path that others assume for us.  

Imperfections are not always bad.  It’s our imperfections that allow us to see the flaws in the world and work to fix them.   Just look at the story of our most beloved ancestors, Abraham and Sarah.  These two stalwarts of the Jewish people were dedicated to our religion, fiercely loyal to our God, and advocates of Social Justice.  Why?  It was their imperfections that allowed them to see the cracks in the world and work towards the betterment of all.  Abraham and Sarah, as we will see tomorrow morning, were sometimes blind to the needs of family members and hurtful to loved ones.  As the founders of our ancient faith, we would expect them to be perfect.  Yet, even God does not command perfection; God tells Abraham, “walk in my ways and be whole.”[iv]   

What a beautiful sentiment.  Our goal as Jews is not to reach perfection; our mission is a journey towards wholeness.  As the scholar, Susan Handelman explains: “‘Be whole’ does not mean ‘…flawless [or] perfect.’  It means be ‘on the way,’ towards others, towards the future.”[v]  Since Abraham and Sarah, we Jews journey forth, not towards perfection, but towards the pursuit of wholeness.  A journey towards wholeness in not concerned with every detail of the moment or with every social expectation.  Instead, it focuses on the big picture – on the larger goal of bettering our lives. 

That means allowing ourselves the freedom to fail.  Often, we are scared of failure, terrified that a wrong turn will careen us off the path of life.  But, failure makes us stronger.  Moses stood before Pharaoh ten times before he could “Let his people go.”  Moses wasn’t worried about failing, he wasn’t petrified about how others viewed him; he kept on stumbling, kept on trying, and became stronger from the experience.  It’s not only Moses: Albert Einstein failed out of school.  “What?  A nice Jewish boy didn’t make the honor role?”  And Oprah, queen of television, was fired from her first job because she was too emotional.  She was “unfit for tv.”  By taking risks, recognizing that we aren’t perfect, and are special for who we are, we can achieve our dreams and pursue that path towards wholeness.

We all feel the need to be perfect, but it is our kids who bear the brunt of the pressure.  Beginning at an early age, our kids are told to not only achieve their best but to BE the best.  Our kids are expected to be the valedictorian, the star athlete, the prom queen, the prom king, and now to tower over everyone else.  Our teens continually jump through hoops in a race to nowhere.

Recently you might have seen Frank Bruni’s column from the New York Times on “How to Survive the College Admissions Madness.”[vi]  Bruni will be speaking at Temple Sinai later this year.  I hope you will join us!  He tells the story of Matt Levin a senior from Cold Spring Harbor, who was about to hear from his top schools.  His parents Craig and Diana were worried about him and wrote him this letter expressing their thoughts.  He could read it whenever he wanted; they just wanted him to know they wrote these words before he learned his fate.

Dear Matt, 
On the night before you receive your first college response, we wanted to let you know that we could not be any prouder of you than we are today.  Whether or not you get accepted does not determine how proud we are of everything you have accomplished and the wonderful person you have become.  That will not change based on what admissions officers decide about your future.  We will celebrate with joy wherever you get accepted…  But your worth as a person, a student and our son is not diminished or influenced in the least by what these colleges have decided. 
We love you as deep as the ocean, as high as the sky, all the way around the world and back again – and to wherever you are headed.  Mom and Dad
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Matt read these words hours after learning that he was rejected from his top three schools.  As mentors, teachers, friends, and parents, we must remind our kids that we love and support them no matter which direction life takes them.  We are proud of our kids for who they are and our love will not be diminished.

Long ago, a king possessed a beautiful diamond; a perfect gem that was marred by a deep, long scratch; an imperfection.  We are that diamond.  Each one of us begins life as a perfect baby, but no matter where our journey takes us, we veer in the wrong direction, make mistakes, and miss the mark.  Deep down, we know that we possess flaws and blemishes; that we are imperfect.  That faithful artisan recognized, that our imperfections can be transformed into something unique --- something remarkable --- something even beautiful. 

During these High Holy Days, we become the artisan, transforming the blemishes that are upon our souls.  We open our eyes to the journey ahead and recognize in our hearts, that our goal is not perfection, but a pursuit of wholeness.  Let us be willing to fail.  Let us revel in our identity. Let us support our loved ones for who they are.  Judaism doesn’t expect you to be perfect.  It only asks: be true to who you are and work to bring wholeness to our world.


[ii] Babylonian Talmud, Me’ilah 14b
[iii] Check out this great article by Yoram Hazony entitled “An Imperfect God” from The New York Times, November 25, 2012, http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/11/25/an-imperfect-god/#more-136650
[iv] Genesis 17:1
[v] “Yom Kippur – loving our imperfections,” Sh’ma, September 1989
[vi] Frank Bruni, “How to Survive the College Admissions Madness,” March 13, 2015, The New York Times, http://www.nytimes.com/2015/03/15/opinion/sunday/frank-bruni-how-to-survive-the-college-admissions-madness.html